Yay! It’s Ramadan! The month of infinite blessings, mercy, and light. May Allah (God) the most High bless each moment for all of us and may you all have a beautiful month of devotion,service, and transformation. I always like to create goals and plan on how I would like to better myself during this month ,in order to prepare for the rest of the year, here are a few tips that help me.
- Create a Ramadan/Dua journal/notebook/notes in your phone in which you can write down Ramadan goals and reflections as a way to organize your thoughts and track your progress.
2. Be honest and write down all that you feel. Prioritize on the habits,deeds, or anything else that you want to improve or work on. Take baby steps, do not overwhelm yourself. The goal is to be consistent and continue these (good) deeds/habits for the rest of the year. This is from the example of the Prophet peace and blessings be upon him
Abu Huraira reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Take up good deeds only as much as you are able, for the best deeds are those done regularly even if they are few.”
Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 4240
Allah knows how sincere we are, if you truly are trying your utmost best to please Allah, that is all that matters.
3. Add one good thing (gaining the pleasure of Allah)to your routine and take one not so good thing out (something that leads to the displeasure of Allah). For example one goal can be is to read one surah a day for the rest of the year and sleeping on time so the Fajr (dawn) prayer is not missed.
4. Track your progress and keep going even after Ramadan. This is the true test, do not let go and keep going! Create incentives for yourself if need be. Whatever motivates you.
5. Make dua (prayer). Keep talking to Allah, this strengthens your connection with Him. Ask and He gives. Make a list of prayers that you would like to make and read them before breaking your fast (this is a very blessed time to make prayers). Take it with you to the masjid or at Iftar gatherings.
Spend your time in service. There is no deed that transforms your heart greater than service of Allah’s creation. When I am blessed with the opportunity to serve people whether it is through serving dinner at a shelter or interacting with those who have less opportunity than me, I feel, by Allah, that, “This is the answer, this is how one should spend his or her life, there is nothing else. ” What I mean is that happiness and peace comes from the pleasure of God (that is where are souls came from), and this is one of the great ways of doing so, serving His creation. It is beautiful and can only be understood when experienced. There is so much Barakah (blessing) that comes along with service, such as
–Gaining good deeds (who doesn’t want this?)
— Purity of the heart. One of the rewards of doing something for the sake of our Creator is the process of purifying one’s heart, cleansing ourselves of whatever is creating toxic effects/affects on you.
This leads to —>Healing of the heart (whatever you are going through, when you spend your time in helping someone else, Allah puts all of your matters into place) and heals you.
–Spreading positivity (as a Muslim you are following the example of the Prophet peace be upon him by comforting another soul and helping the world go round)
Continue this through every act of your life, make your intention to do every act for the pleasure of God, being conscious of Him the most high, your deeds will be as an act of worship and your life will be illuminated (for real).
As a muslim, it is crucial to increase our knowledge in order to know what Allah expects of us and gain his pleasure –> His nearness. We have a responsibility and can not leave it to Sheikh Google or Saudia Arabia (they are not the standard) to decide on our matters. Seriously we can’t. We must gain our own knowledge by looking at what the Quran (holy book) and Sunnah (example of the Prophet peace be upon him) teach us. Learn from authentic sources, like scholars who have dedicated their lives to study what the Quran and Sunnah say. If we do not know of what our religion teaches us, how will we become better individuals? How else will we learn how to purify ourselves in order to become closer to God?
Lastly, keep good sohbat (company). You are what and whom you spend your time with. If there is something or someone who is creating a toxic lifestyle/atmosphere for you, let go. It makes all the difference.
May Allah forgive us and forgive me. Please remember my family and me in your prayers. May you have a Ramadan that increases your love and devotion to Him the most High and His Beloved Messenger Peace and blessings be upon him. Ameen.
Peace, Love, and Light
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